Ummmmm, everyone has their own defination of what white is...you should discuss it with her first...is it stark white, ivory, white with a bit of creamy color??? Rarely is stark white used unless as a blender. I would start there and then ask her preference of design as she obviously has her likes and dislikes and you are trying your best to please her. The ideas above are all wonderful but the best bet is talk with her. This would be a wonderful opportunity to learn about each other and have a nice experience together.