Unfortunately you have come in contact with a girl who had poor upbringing. I'm sorry if you are related but I call them as I see them. I have run into a few of these types myself, & I figure they only invited me to the wedding for the gift, not to share the beauty of the day. In this case I always give the bride only what I can afford-no matter what she has expressed! I also do not feel your presence or your present will be appreciated for the wedding. Do only what you can afford!!!!