Originally Posted by EIQuilter

As the shower is being "hosted" by the office, how many are invited? Are there others who are just work acquaintances with the bride-to-be rather than close friends? Could two or three of you go together for the shower gift? That way you can get the bride something she thinks she wants or needs without spending a small fortune yourself.

Even though you're not going to the wedding, you might consider the same thing for a wedding gift. According to what I've read, yes, you should send a gift if you've been invited to the wedding (I believe that's from Emily Post Institute). And remember, you will see this woman at work every day after the wedding. You need to do what you feel is right and will allow you to be comfortable around her in the future. Don't worry about what she thinks of you, but what you think of you!

I don't envy the family this young lady is about to marry into. She's going to be a challenge!