My friend worries that she is obligated to spend more than she wants to as the bride-to-be is her niece. BTB sent a list of gifts she wanted with prices. The CHEAPEST was a set of salt and pepper shakers for $50! Should also mention she has children from former guys, never married before, wants a huge white wedding with horse and carriage and is nearly splitting up her parents. My friend is a good person and said if it wasn't family she would not even attend. Her niece never comes to any family gatherings as she is ashamed of her kin. I said you can give her a different gift. What do you all think?