Peg from tX, I love your story. My mother didn't want her DIL to get certain items (she had made my brother ask for these things for years). So, my parents ended up leaving all perwonal inventory to me; money was left evenly to all 3 of us. My dad died 1 1/2 years after Mother. I cleaned out one room at a time and had each of us take turns choosing. What was left, was done same way for grandkids. Of course, she left all her eewing stuff to me.