Originally Posted by bailey
This is a girl I work with. Do not socialize with her or see her other than at work. Still even wonder why I recieved an invitation. BTW - her wedding invitation also suggested proper attire and which colors she preferred you wear!!
It sounds as though you do not plan to go, so, no you are not required by etiquette to send a gift whether or not you attend. BUT, if others in the office feel as you do but want to do something, I'd consider chipping in (say $5) for an office group gift.
I can understand a bride feeling the need to remind guests what "proper wedding attire" is since everything these days is "anything goes," but being told which colors to wear sounds like she's been possessed by a delirious wedding planner. Sheesh - some of them are waaaay out there, one of which was the one my daughter fired for her wedding....