Personally, I wouldn't bother. I have people in my family who are the same way. You do something kind for them and they treat it like it doesn't matter anyway. I prefer making quilts for people, friends and family that will love it no matter what cause I made for them and with them in mind. I ALSO NEVER TELL WHEN I AM MAKING A QUILT because the surprise is beyond words. To catch them totally off guard like that is priceless. I just pick colors that I know they would like.
I feel that when you let others choose the fabrics and the style, you are putting a reign on your creativity as a quilter. One sister I have. I wouldn't bother doing anything for because she would not take care of it anyway.