please don't go into a depresson!!! we need you on here.now about the quilt....I would start with the back,cut a piece of muslin a little larger then the tear and appique in onto the back.then put some batting on top of the muslin,then put a piece of white fabric on top of the batting.then try pulling the tear together and whip stiching it.by having the white fabric underneath it will give you something to stich to.also if the tear can't be pulled all the way together you can stich it down.hope this makes sense.good luck and God bless