Originally Posted by jillaine
Originally Posted by deema
Maybe if you'd mentioned it to him before heading to the store, he wouldn't feel like you'd broken the promise?
I think Deema nailed it. Most of our partner-woes can be boiled down to lack of or mis- communication.
And really, it doesn't matter what WE think about whether or not you broke your promise. (We're not married to you.) The key is: your spouse felt you did.
I would simply apologize, and then come to a revised agreement about what you should do if/when this situation occurs in the future.
Best to you,
Jillaine
That was my line of thinking - mis-communication. I'm glad someone saw that...I was worried some might see it as "asking permission"...which is something I never do in my marriage...but I do tell him what purchases I plan to make for the simple fact that the money is all coming and going from the same place and we should both know about it. While I don't see it as a promise broken, I can understand why he might feel that way, especially if there were not any mentioned "stipulations" to the agreed to promise (such as making a purchase to finish a project). I agree that it might be a good time to create such a stipulation, should this situation arise in the future.