i had the same experience and have never had another pregnancy since and now its much to late for me to ever have a baby.
i would not have wanted to receive this quilt.
i actually had purchased many fabrics to make a quilt and bedding and ended up using it all to make receiving blankets for the hospital that i lost my baby in.
i still make receiving blankets for them and on the day i was supposed to give birth i go to the hospital and bring them 22 receiving blankets (i was 22 weeks pregnant).
so you might want to consider something like that for this quilt and even bringing up the idea to her.
i started making receiving blankets within the first month of my loss and found it really helped me with my mourning.
here are links to some great tute on how to make receiving blankets. its very easy since you don't use any batting and there isn't any quilting.
http://sewmuchado.blogspot.com/2009/...-tutorial.html
http://piecenquilt.blogspot.com/2009...-tutorial.html
http://juicy-bits.typepad.com/juicy_...et-part-1.html