Don't let a thoughtless (and tactless) remark discourage you from displaying your beautiful quilts where you can enjoy them on a daily basis. I love to visit my friends' homes because they are all so different from mine and yet a terrific reflection of who they are. Some are modern, some traditional, some cluttered, some tidy--but all wonderful and warm and welcoming. I'm sure your home is equally lovely and reflects the kind of person you are. Most people love to look at quilts. If your relative doesn't, that's her misfortune.