Well our replies have hit all over, so it is really going to have to be your decision. My input....is it worth causing a problem in your friendship? If not, then share or purchase a pattern for your friend. For a close friend, I would not allow a $12 pattern to cause a problem or end our friendship, but I would be just as comfortable sharing. I wouldn't just share with everybody, that would infringe on the designer. I for one hope you post your decision & how your friend reacts.