I have never had an outside job. As a young bride my mom told me that it was my job to take care of my home and family, and to learn to live on my husbands salary. There were plenty of times that it was really hard to do, especially when sisters and SIL's were all working and seemed to have so much nicer things than we did. It was also at a time when women were showing they were as valued in the workplace as men, and for us who werent working, we were sort of looked upon as not being quite "good enough". I remember going out for cocktails with my husband and a group that he worked with, and there were several women in the group. I was asked by one what did I do, and when I said I took care of my home and family the looks I got were instantly demeaning. And for the rest of the time, they all talked about work and I was ignored. My husband was in upper level management so we were often in gatherings such as this, and it was always the same. The men were nice and even attentive, but not the women. I got so I hated going. My sisters all held jobs, and none had as many children as I, so they really didnt have too, they wanted too. What was so funny to me, and showed some jealousy was when I turned 65 and could collect SS on my husband, one sister was livid. I drew as much as she did, and she thought that was unfair because I had never worked. I told her I worked my A$$ off all those years, and my children all had a good sound upbringing and they knew they had plenty of love, a home to bring friends too, and "mom" when they needed me. So dont you let anyone make you feel worthless if being at home for your family is what is important to you. Remember, anyone can be taught a job skill, but there isnt anything but hands on learning for "just being a mom".