I pride myself in thinking I really know my real friends tastes, likes, etc. Several times I have given them gifts that I think are perfect for them. They have given things to me and for one reason or not they just aren't the perfect gifts. I itch if I wear angora, I love I just can't wear it, my friend didn't know that about me. I decided after than if I was making someone something I was sure they would love I asked them first and we've never had an awkard exchange since. It's not a personal slight regarding you quilt, she's just a ruffle person. I'm not...I hope this helps you feel better and you're able to realize it's not you. Just preference...