we have this situation my mom lives in her home with my youngest sister but mom needs care for breakfast lunch and dinner I do breakfast and my othe two sisters are suppose to do lunch and dinner but they rarely show so it all falls on my younger sis but we got an aide from an agency thru medicare who come for four hours a day to help clean take care of mom baths etc. so that my younger sis can go to work. check out social service agencies thru the local office on aging see what they can do there is stuff there its just hard to find if you don't know where to look