Nothing about this is easy. I had to tell my Dad, because he didn't want to go to Assisted Living. My mom is great, but caring for my dad is wearing her out. Just try to put yourself in their position and talk to them how you would want your kids to talk to you. I try very hard not to parent them, which can be difficult, because they need more help than they have in the past. As much as they may not realize it now, simplifying their lives relieves a lot of stress for the elderly. When their world becomes smaller and less complicated, they can relax and enjoy their friends and their lives.
I took my parents to several Assisted Living facilities for lunch and tours. It made them feel they had a choice about their future. The visual made it much easier for them to make a decision.
I will be thinking about you this weekend. You will be kind, caring and loving in your conversation. Be gentle with yourself, its not easy caring for our parents.
Take Care, Laura