I have seen many people who die their hair and when they let it grow out to the gray, they look so much better. They have a softer look. I have never died mine and it is almost white. I am just too lazy. My hair grows very fast and I would be dying every 2 weeks. I think most of my friends like it. I usually love everyone's gray hair. I have several friends who are all gray and they look great. Your husband is just not used to it. He will adjust.