Update...the fellow board member that PM'd me, misread the post. She has rePM'd me and apologized. I also apologized, because I was too hasty in my response to her.
That is one thing that anonymity on boards like this perpetuate...us not being kind to each other. I was civil to the woman at church b/c that was the right thing to do in the situation to keep the peace. I didn't 'have' to be on here.
Maybe I learned 2 lessons. Ignore those who know everything. DON'T reply everytime you want to.