The quilt is great. But maybe he has enough military in his job and would like his home to be a refuge from that military life. My brother was 25 year Navy. When he was off duty he had nothing military on him. He was being picked up by his squad at the airport. He bumped a man. The man asked who he was. Command Master Chief he said without even getting out of his very unmilitary sitting position. And the man said "sir". Is there anything I can do for your". But he had regular clothes on so the man was not able to tell. He looked like a civilian. Maybe your parents separate the Military and the home life totally like my brother.