First of all, I would say that in our 50 yrs of marriage, we never even spoke of the word divorce; murder maybe but never divorce. LOL Communication is key--keep the lines open all the time. Trust is important. My husband used to travel a lot when he was working. If we didn't have trust, I don't know what would have happened. Remember, the two of you are always first and when your children grow up, you want to still be compatible and in love. We used to take weekend trips once in a while and leave our kids with my parents. The kids needed to be away from us as much as we needed to be away from them. Our children are extremely important to us, don't get me wrong, but now that we are older and alone, we can talk to each other and we don't have to depend on our kids for companionship. Most importantly, keep God in the center of your home---not God d--- it. I hope this helps. Good luck Donna