So I just have to jump in on this one. If you look at my avatar you would think those boys are mine but so not. I adopted them from India when they were toddlers. I got the first one at 18mth old and the second about a year and a half later when he was 19mth old. I am not from India but from Trinidad. They have blessed and enriched out lives more than I can say. You will get much advice and much good and bad feedback....all good to listen to and ponder. I simply went with the peace God gave me through all of it. I was not able to get pregnant ever but now that I have these 2 boys I know why. All the best with your thinking and journey on this.