I'm adopted, my parents adopted me from Korea while being stationed in Japan. My parents picked me from an orphanage and took me back when I was 17 to visit. I believe the adoption process was a long one, but they believe it was the best thing they ever did. My parents could have kids, I'm the middle one of 7 and the only adopted one. I love my parents as if they were my biological parents, I've never had an issue about finding my real ones. I guess it's all in the way you're raised. Good luck with you decision!