I am so sorry that you are put in this situation. Sounds like you are living a difficult choice. Change your mind set. Change the pattern, the colors and the size of the finished piece. MIL may want the quilt for self instead of her mom. I agree with make a lap quilt or bib or a wheel chair or walker bag. A quilt in a nursing home needs to be small and light. The weight is painful and tends to crush the patient limiting movement. Fleece is more appropriate due to the weight and ease in washing,etc. Also it is easy to replace. :thumbup: