Originally Posted by Rebecca VLQ
I disagree. Because...
Folks that go into a nursing home generally have a shortened life expectancy. Yes, they are having a hard time taking care of themselves outside of the nursing home, but folks deteriorate even in the NICEST nursing homes because they are taken care of, rather than having something to be responsible for.
Sad to say it, whether it's a year or 10 years...your MIL's mother is dying. We're all dying in a sense, but MIL's mother is moving toward that.
MIL asked you to make a quilt for her mother. It's a way of taking care of her elders before they pass on. From a spiritual/respect kinda place...ask your Mother in Law if she would like to choose the fabrics for her mother's quilt. Tell her you can help since you have an eye for color. I bet she will at the very least appreciate the offer.
These are my feelings also. My sister and I went through this a few years ago with an aunt and it is not an easy decision. This is probably the last major thing that any of you will do for her and you will be glad in the end that you did. I would get what the patterrn calls for in case of a mistake and if you have leftovers there is nothing to feel guilty about.
As for your MIL calling for help, well I have been known to call some of my children on the way home from the store to ask for help and my aunt used to call me to change light bulbs or fix her remote. Try not to be to hard on her. After all she did give birth to you wonderful hubby/ ;-)