Originally Posted by RobertaMarie
I usually ask, "what can I do for you that would compensate for your helping me do what I need to have done".. My dear one says, "if you know where you want things, just tell me, but I don't want to stand around while you make up your mind." He said "life is helping when it is needed, no bargaining required". Is he wise, or what?
This is so sweet. If he doesn't have anything in mind you could help him come up with a thing or 2 he'd like. My DH likes to see me happy and vice versa. We like to do things for each other. Just this morning I told him I was going to do some organizing in the sewing room and he asked if I wanted help! I told him only if he felt like it. So he moved some things around for me.