I understand where you're coming from. I attending an estate sale in the town I used to live in. I did't know the woman, but had passed her house to get to and from work for years. In the summer I'd see her out there working in her beautiful yard. At the estate sale, they put everything out......including adult diapers. Now all my family has been informed if/when I die, they are to throw out ANYTHING personal like that!!! I know it's a common thing - to have to use diapers, but I do NOT want it advertised like that!
As for my hobby and craft stuff -- I've been dumping the regular craft stuff and antiques on my children for a few years now. My quilting stuff -- I told my daughter to get ahold of my friends that quilt and give my "stuff" to them, if she doesn't want it . :)