No offense meant to anyone but as someone who had 6 miscarriages and a stillbirth, I have to disagree about not giving something before the baby is born. I had baby clothes given to me that I clung to and if I had had a quilt, it would have helped me so much and it would have been precious to me. As it was, the things I had were passed onto my first child. It is natural to give gifts before a baby is born, especially from Grammas, so I think you should celebrate the joy of the anticipation of this wonderful event without thinking, "Oh, maybe this baby won't survive." Be positive and enjoy being a pre-Gramma and just have a ball planning. This time you share with your children will be long-remembered. Just my opinion.