You should be able to get help from the state for not only medical help but for help in doing the everyday things like laundry, housecleaning, and cooking if they are on social security or disability. Its cheaper to send help in than pay for them to be in a home. I know you don't plan to do that but talk to the doctors, talk to social security, see what help you can get so that you can be the loving, supporting person you are.