So glad to be able to help YOU for a change, Craftybear. You are always giving to us.
Go to a health food store and get some Bach Rescue Remedy. I have studied Bach Flower Remedies for over 25 years and you can use this to calm yourself, your animals and even put a few drops in water when you transplant seedlings and any mature plants. Every living thing benefits from it and you only need 2-3 drops in the dog's basin or your water glass or a gallon of water for your plants. It is the most amazing thing. I use it for clients in grief and it takes that awful edge off both physical and emotional pain. You will never be without it again!!