Originally Posted by shawnemily
Originally Posted by np3
If they haven't asked for help on improving their skills, then don't offer it. If you can't say something nice, say nothing at all. It may not look right to you, but it looks right to them and that is all that counts. It may not be your color choices, but it was theirs.
I like what I like and I don't particularly care about the rules on color choices or contrast. If I am making a gift for someone, then I care about what they like, even if it isn't my style.
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I agree 100%! If you dont have something nice to say.... dont say anything! If they ask for honest opinions ... then give them.... but do it in a PM rather than embarrasing them on the board! If they ask for help in a project; that is when we should give them our suggestions/opinions. As it has been said over and over; "our quilt; our style, no rules!" Skill comes from practice and if they are embarrased they may give up!
I was on another board a couple of years ago and they were a bunch of quilting snobs and nasty quilt police! They thought nothing of totally dissing someones work on the message board and it was awful! (I never posted pics because I didnt want to chance the embarrasment the others had!)
Just an example of how bad they were..... I joined in a round robin before I realized how nasty they were and when I received the top I was to work on; there was a note in it from the previous round quilter that said;
I hope you are able to continue on this; I had to totally remove and redo ________'s row before I could do anything with it!!!!
That turned me right off! The point of a round robin is to end up with a quilt that is a combination of the whole group's efforts. Not what one person thinks it should be!!
What I LOVE about this board is the friendliness and compassion for everyone on it. And how everyone is encouraged to join in no matter what their level of skill is.
OK...enuf said.
I LOVE THIS BOARD!!!!!!
I've had a few experiences at shows with people who are all about tearing quilters down.( NOT judges...just people strolling about offering nothing but negatives) I didn't have the courage to follow them to where one of my quilts hung. It would have been devastating to me as a new quilter. I'd never want to do that to someone else.
I really like these boards because the lion's share of people here recognize the hard work and dedication in this hobby. We all grow and improve the longer we try.