QNC - you r 2 funny! We all do things like that to ourselves. It's probably better to just take a deep breath and count silently to 10! I know it's really hard, and I was there for the first 46 years of my marriage - actually sometimes wondered if we were going to make it! I don't know how I finally did it, but I'm driving my DH crazy by NOT ARGUING WITH HIM! Last summer I decided arguing/fighting was stupid and not worth it. He just stands there with a weird look on his face when I say,' I'm not going to argue.' There's no 'come back' to it.