My heart goes out to you. I served in the Air Force for many years in the Pediatric clinic caring for families. Your scenario was played out over and over again, but there we had base support. I feel so badly for today's deployments since they involve so many citizen-soldiers and the families are not in "understanding" communities. It is hard for civilians to understand the stress and toll that deployment takes on a family. I am grateful that Michell Obama and J. Biden are undertaking you as their mission.,., to ensure that you are not forgotten and that you get all the services that the active duty families get.