I don't blame you for your reaction. I am a very forgiving person, but there are some things that can hurt me deeply...yeah, guess I am the sensitive type, artiste'...but most of the time, I need some closure on things.
Somebody deliberately cutting one of my projects, just bc they thought it was wrong...I don't know what I would do, but sooner or later I would have to acknowledge it or it would eat me up.
This is why nobody can go in my sewing room without me. Too much money and too much sentimentality in there. Besides, I might be working on a surprise, or just don't want something seen before it's finished. Sorry to be so opinionated on your situation, I just feel for you. If it were me, I'd at least have to let her see me get the fabric, or see the finished quilt, so the opportunity to feel guilty was there. I believe we should feel guilty when we have wronged someone. It's character building. Glad your were able to salvage what was left.
I've had ppl convince me of things too, and then later found out, I was right all along, so I really believe in gut feelings now. I tell hubby sometimes, "If I end up being wrong - let me. I have that right." He doesn't argue after that. hugs, C