I am sorry you lost your loved one. We just had our 28th and I know how miserable I would be. I have become rather cheeky in my old age. Both the kids (for the first time ever) forgot my birthday last year. Rather than get mad (I could have real easy) I called and thanked them for my birthday cards. Boy you could have heard their jaw drop. You bet they didn't this year. They send cards for anniversaries and all. Don't know what will happen later but they know I won't let it pass. I get upset when we think==they are busy with kids==I always recognized my parents events and especially after my Mom died. I went to dad's to be with him and so did my sister.
Hope you are having a better day now. Next year, plan a fun day or short trip for you or with a friend to do something great and toast the day.
love,
Peg-TX