I remember when we first got married and he got sick and refused to go to the doctor. I told him to go lie in the bed and die if he didn't go to the Dr. because I wasn't gonna listen to his whining. He went to the room and came out 10 minutes later wanting to go. Turned out he had pneumonia. I know it sounded mean but it worked and 20 years later he still knows not to whine if he doesn't want to go to the Dr.