I'm sorry you didn't like some of the answers you received, but we all need to consider how we present ourselves when using only the written word, and no facial expressions or vocal cues are available to help others understand our tone.
If you'll excuse me for writing so, parts of your original post indicated that you might need the "leave it alone; you're meddling" talk. And with this being mostly a large group of women (no offense), I'd be shocked if many didn't go there. The whole not "using her time wisely" thing, along with the description that it's you who wants her to quilt because it's in your best interest makes it sound to some that you may be meddling.
I'm not trying to stir the pot more; just explain why the thread turned as it did. Ever since I became a mother it has become apparent to me that women often consider it their obligation to comment where they think someone else is in the wrong. By asking for advice, even on a related topic, you open the floodgates. If you don't want such advice in future, I strongly suggest you keep your posts more brief, not more detailed. It's the editorializing that opens you up.
I hope you got the advice you want, and that it works out with your DIL.
Originally Posted by calano1
I have pondered the following questions for almost a year now, and I still am not sure if I must or if I should leave it alone ...
My future DIL is the topic of discussion here ..
How do I get this young lady to take some interest in quilting / sewing /needlework???
She is truly a lovely young girl, but she has not learned to use her time wisely, or to make anything with her hands ...
She thinks a sewing machine is just for mending or fixing the odd seam ... :shock:
I have given her my old sewing machine and some fabric with which she made a lunch bag and an apron, so I think the interest might grow if I can just get the right project ....
So....here are my questions:
If I make up a kit with fabric and a pattern --- which patterns are interesting?
Shall I make it a "block of the month"-thing and give her a kit each month? Like a sampler?
Or must I keep to small projects that finishes fast so she will stay interested?
I would really like it if she takes an interest in quilting ... then I will have someone to leave all my sewing toys to!! hehehehe :) :lol: :wink:
But at the same time ...I don't want her to feel I am pushing her into something she doesn't want to do ...
I have read on QB how some of you got your GD's involved in quilting .... so I will wait for the wise women of the QB to speak ... please .... :) :)