I feel SO bad for you and I don't have any suggestions other than what has already been offered. I'm working on a quilt now that I don't know how in the world I got it so confused, but I've ended up ripping out rows and rows of it. Mine is just for me, but I still couldn't stand the way it looked. It's one thing for yourself, something else when it's a gift. Hang in there and take comfort in the fact that we all do these things.