Use a blind hem stitch and maybe that invisible thread or just plain natural color. Ddi you see the section in the book on the different ways to stitch it down? Maybe go through that and try some to see how you like it. I think black is too stark for me too.
This is a consignment quilt I made. I did not want the stitching to show on the edges.
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