When my boys were little (3 boys in 4 years) I was a stay at home mom. my husband and I wanted it that way and he was very appreciative of me doing all I did. Everyday he would come home, give me a kiss and say "how was your day? what did you do?" He was not asking for any reason except he cared. One day I just could not get going. When he arrived home I was in sweats the boys in PJ's or a diaper dishes on the table toys everywhere, a mess. He came in the door, leaned in for a kiss then stopped and said "what happenned"? I looked around and said "you know how you always ask what I did today? Today I didn't!" Kids are all grown and gone now and I still smile when I think of it. Our families usually mean well we need to communicate with them to ensure everyone is taken care of.