Originally Posted by ann31039
anyone ever notice all the "rules" change for babies every 5 years or so? i notice they flip flop a lot. one time its ok, another its not, then its ok again. I think if a person just uses common sense, they'll do fine.
Amen to that
You hear out cry of how dangerous something is after a horrible incident. Very rarely are these with out extenuating issues- such as acohol, drugs, extreme fatique on the part of the parent and or no clue what so ever in parenting. When we were in Germany with the Army, a couple suffered the death of their child and every one cried SIDS -don't sleep with your child, don't let them sleep in the wrong position, don't give them a blanket and so on. Finally a friend came forward who was suffering for months with guilt for not coming forward when the baby was still alive about the living conditions in the home. She said it was a mess, beer cans, and other trash in the crib with the baby were a constant problem. No one wishes the loss of a child for anyone especially those of us who have lost at least one child, it's just time to stop frightening everyone with the what you're doing wrong and you could kill your child. Relax enjoy making a baby quilt and share it your gift will be appreciated and loved. One of my favorites is from a dear friend. When I called to thank her I was told she had not come through a very risky surgery and she never knew the blanket had ever reached it's destination. She never got to see the children she prayed and cried with me for so to me that quilt was and is a very special gift.