Based on my experience teaching my boys, ages 8 & 10, to sew, I'd say to start with hand sewing if you want her to learn that. My boys prefer machine sewing (except when they can't). If they hadn't learned hand sewing first, they might not do it at all. Either way, start with quick and easy projects that build confidence and give a satisfying reward. We made four patch pin cushions and quilts for their stuffed animals. They make clothes and contraptions for the animals too (hanglider, tents, backpacks).