My stepmother came when my children were born (I have 4). My MIL and my mother were not willing or able to help. I will always be grateful that she came. She didn't really help with the housework (although she did offer) but she did get meals and take care of the older children as the younger ones came along. And it meant a lot to me that she was willing to come and help me. She really has been a mother to me over the years and I am thankful to have her. She and my Dad will celebrate 36 years of marriage on May 31!