once i let it go- i don't worry about it i've never given a quilt to some one who didn't when they saw it said at least "Oh, wow, thanks" as they tossed it aside to open something else= or what ever. and that's enough- what they do with it from there is up to them. i did find out about an unhappy sister in law once- i went to her and asked why she didn't like the quilt-
it was not that she didn't like it -- it was i had made a quilt for their big overstuffed leather sofa---she really wanted a bed quilt--
problem solved. I've never seen either quilt since i gave them years ago- but sometimes i hear something from someone about one of them.:)