Gifts are only gifts if no strings are attached. I don't expect others to dictate how I use the gifts they give me, so why should I dictate how others respond to the gifts that I give? I have family members that give me things all the time, but expect something in return. That's not appropriate. For example, my MIL sends ugly clothing for my son all of the time, with instructions to dress our son in them and send her the pictures. not. going. to. happen. I don't always appreciate what others send to us, so I'm not about to ask that others appreciate what I give to them.