It is so hard to give a gift and then find out it is being mistreated. We have the saying that once it is given away you have no say about what is done with it. I gave my daughter and son-in-law a beautiful irish chain quilt when they got married and they use it daily on their bed. The dog sleeps on top of the quilt all the time. When I said something they told me that the dog was like one of their kids. I just said ok and dropped it. I will give them another quilt when and if I can. Keeping the relationship good is the important thing. You can always make another quilt.