I know when you give a quilt away, it is no longer yours but to see it in such bad shape it so sad. When I was a quilt, which isn't often, I take it to the laundromat and use their triple size and I put in a color grabber or two or more depending on the color of the quilt. I use cold water and Woolite or a specialty soap for washing quilts. I then take it home(wet) and hang it over my outdoor lines and cover it with a sheet so (1) it won't fade, and (2) the birds don't poop on it. and let it line dry. They turn out really nice. You might need to do a light pressing to get it looking new. Good luck and let us know how it turned out, please. Jan