I love making quilts and giving them... I feel once they leave my hands that's all the say I have over them, the more used the better! What good is something left in a box in a closet for someone to look at someday? I don't mean this in a mean way really... yes I know this is something that is brought up many many times. I really feel if you don't want it used DON'T give it away. Things happen, life happens don't ruin a RELATIONSHIP for something, tomorrow that person could be gone.. cherish the relationship not the quilt....
Been there.