My in laws are celebrating there 70th wedding anniversary in a few weeks. we (DH & I) have been planning a surprise party for them. His 2 brothers live out of state and of course will be here for the celebration. Now here is my question. Neither of the brothers have offered to help with the expenses. I even asked the sister's in-law for help with ideas for food, (its an open house) not a lot of help there either. Should something be said, or do we just suck it up and enjoy the occasion?