What a blessing you two will be moving in to a new home together. Your fears are justified, and understood, but please look at the blessing you have. I am downsizing also, but it will just be me when the move occurs. I simply cannot mange the property on my own. You see, my DH of 45 years has incurable esopogeal cancer. His tearful episode today, the first since July '10 diagnosis, of "I'll die worrying about you and all this stuff, and the mess it will be. We have to get it all sorted out". It's just stuff. If downsizing will ease his mind---it's done! Please don't think I am throwing stones, I'm just suggesting you really look at your blessings.