Okie, it is so hard when our kids are hurting. I'm sorry. My prayer is that this situation ends up with peace and happiness. If it were me, I definitely would put the quilt away for awhile, see how things pan out, then decide. If it doesn't go to your DIL, and you don't want to give it to one of the boys, it could always be given to a church for fundraising or to charity. Just a thought. All the best to you and your family.